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Cake day: October 30th, 2023

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  • The people in charge dislike Antifa because people who align under that label oppose those in power.

    I hesitate to use the argument “‘Antifa’ means ‘anti-fascist’ therefore if you don’t like Antifa you are necessarily fascist”–not because I don’t believe it’s true, but because I believe it’s more correlation. The “National Socialist” party was not as its name purports, nor do many of the “Protect the children” laws actually do what they say on the tin; therefore a deeper inspection on acts, means, motives, and results is warranted over a mere “literal definition of the name.”




  • I don’t know if you’re involved in activism at all, but I heard some advice from an old Food Not Bombs head. Don’t trust the person that is always available, always has a car, or is down for anything. This is especially true if they are new or always wear bland or name brand clothing.

    I guess more generally, don’t trust people that seem like they really want to be trusted.

    Regarding surveillance online, yeah, there’s absolutely no privacy anywhere and there’s nothing you can do, so just be boring.


  • Your in-group language may be viewed as acceptable within your siloed communications, but that doesn’t mean it’s generally appropriate. “Female” is an adjective, and we already have an appropriate word in English for a female person, “woman.”

    The use of “female” as a noun is objectifying and dehumanizing–reflecting terminology generally reserved for describing other animals.

    I’d encourage you to ask some women how they feel about the term and take their responses to heart, but apparently you can’t keep their attention for more than 2 days.

    Oh, and who you calling “you people?”


  • females

    Did you mean “women?”

    females

    Perhaps you meant “women?”

    female

    Pretty sure you actually meant “woman.”


    No issue, no awkward moment, no creepiness nothing.

    You sure about that? Your disdain, misunderstanding, and disregard for women in general was on full display in this one post. Its entirely possible that within 2 days of conversion the woman you were talking with realized you weren’t the kind of person she wanted in her life.


  • Kinda just seems like she likes to play games with people and so had a list of people she could contact to play. You used to be a reliable candidate, and now you’re not.

    I don’t know what you envision as “getting close,” but is it possible she didn’t view y’all as being close?

    I’m guessing y’all have asymmetrical goals and expectations. She realized this and adapted.








  • Or set the public instance to public discussion about women’s stuff and set up a private instance with a women’s only application process that is advertised on the public instance.

    There’s value in women’s only spaces, and there’s value in spaces for fathers, husbands, brothers, boyfriends, and sons to ask about women’s stuff. By arranging the communities as described they can keep discoverability, exclusivity, AND can stop getting forbidden comments from the public on their public forum.



  • Is this about the public community, Women’s stuff, federated on the public fediverse who’s posts get aggregated to the public all feed and which is accessed by a diverse set of software solutions that may or may not force the community rules to be visible before viewing post content?

    I try not to engage cause I know about the community, but golly, I can’t imagine how a man might stumble upon that and interact.


  • My family always told me that I’d grow more conservative and want a family of my own as I grow older.

    As I aged I went from ambivalence toward politics and kids to decidedly anti-conservative and anti-kid.

    You know your own feelings on the matter more than your family does, and letting your family dictate how you live your life will lead to resentment and misery.



  • That was my proposed alternative I encouraged my friends to call about. I don’t know how it wasn’t obvious that if your goal was to increase pedestrian safety and encourage visiting your park in the middle of downtown (which was the public justification in the survey) that the best way to do that would be to get rid of the 2 highways trisecting your park. Grass them over to both remove traffic and increase park space, install meandering leisure paths through a history walk, and have local Coloradoan artists produce for a dedicated Coloradoan history sculpture park.

    Oh, and if you really, really want members of the public to use your public park get rid of the helicopter parent rangers that yell at you for touching the oldest tree in Denver or for falling asleep, get rid of the signs that forbid standing still or loitering (at a fucking park of all places), and don’t close off the grass areas periodically.

    You could even go so far as to install more trash cans or make the bathrooms available 24/7.

    It’s not that the public didn’t care about your fake liberty bell, it’s that your park is kinda a hostile environment with shitty infrastructure.


  • There are so many cases where you must be able to use an item to determine its suitability. If brands and vendors don’t facilitate that prior to sale then I have no way to test it without buying it first. Vendors take a gamble then if the product works for me. If it doesn’t, well that’s the cost of doing business. They make money enough for purchasing wares, paying utilities, rent, and salaries, covering logistical overhead, and turning profit all from the sale of their goods. There’s no reason consumers should have to subsidize one of their risks through a special medium beyond the sale of product.

    If a company doesn’t like that then they can adopt consumer friendly protections like permitting trying on clothes, test driving a car or having a tool rental option prior to sale.

    But if I:

    • buy a phone and realize only when I get home that the brilliant engineers forgot to allow me to set a background image
    • buy a new computer and realize only when I get home that despite them advertising it supports thunderbolt it won’t actually work with my thunderbolt accessories and can’t support 3 external displays
    • buy a new mouse that is enclosed in a sealed cardboard box that doesn’t permit checking the ergonomics only to realize it doesn’t work well
    • buy a pair of headphones only to realize they sound bad/creak when worn/have terrible cable noise
    • buy an oil filter wrench and realize I can’t fit it and my hand at the same time on the access port

    Well, then, they can process a return.