Mama told me not to come.

She said, that ain’t the way to have fun.

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Joined 1 year ago
Cake day: June 11th, 2023
  • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.workstoFunny@sh.itjust.works•I'm not fucking around.
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    1 day ago

    Mine is right next to our garage, and on a path to the backyard. I can smell our bin from a few feet away with the lid closed, and that’s without poop in there (though now we have cat poop, so it smells worse) and only grass/tree clippings and whatever spilled out of the bags.

    It’s gross, but certainly not enough to get mad over, especially since I don’t care enough to actually wash it out (maybe I will soon though, idk). But it’s still unpleasant. If the smell wasn’t my fault though, I would be a lot more annoyed.

    I used to put the garbage inside the garage in the winter (we get snow here), but the smell killed that idea.

  • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.workstoFunny@sh.itjust.works•Cheese sandwich
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    16 days ago

    We have two similar, but different things in our household (American here):

    • grilled cheese - slices of cheese (usually cheddar) between two slices of bread; outside is buttered and it’s cooked on a pan so both sides get toasted
    • bread w/ cheese (crappy name, I know) - shredded cheese (usually Mexican blend, sometimes mozzarella) on bread w/ mayo to help it stick; either microwave (15 sec or so) or butter the bottom and cook on a pan w/ the lid on (2-3 min?)

    Maybe I’ll start calling the second a “cheese toasty” because that’s way better than what I call it.

  • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.workstoFunny@sh.itjust.works•Cheese sandwich
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    16 days ago

    We do something similar, but I’m super lazy. Basically, I do bread + mayo + shredded Mexican blend cheese, and microwave for 15 seconds or so until the cheese melts. If I’m not lazy, I’d butter the bottom of the broad and toast it on a pan w/ the lid on, so the bread gets a little toasty while the cheese melts.

    We just call it “bread w/ cheese,” because every other combination has a different meaning (cheese bread has cheese in the dough, cheesy bread has crispy cheese on the outside, grilled cheese has slices of [usually] cheddar). It’s pretty good though, the cheese gets really melty, and it’s really fast since the cheese is shredded.

    It sounds pretty similar to what you make, and I think it’s one of those “let’s whip something up” dishes that don’t get a proper name.

  • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.workstoSelfhosted@lemmy.world•Syncthing Android app discontinuedEnglish
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    19 days ago

    They’re moving a lot of code to this internal core, which means this core is unstable. It’s pretty common for projects to hold off on making code public until it’s reached a certain level of stability. I’m guessing they’re not interested in accepting patches, due to the high level of churn from the dev team. Once that churn dies down, there’s a chance they’ll reconsider and make it FOSS.

    I’ve seen this in a number of FOSS projects, and it’s also what I do on my own (I don’t want help until I’m happy with the base functionality).

    So that’s why I hold out hope. We’ll see once the churn on that internal SDK repo dies down.

  • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.workstoSelfhosted@lemmy.world•2024 Self-Host User Survey ResultsEnglish
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    19 days ago

    Yeah, I totally get that.

    However, the women in my workplace either aren’t married or have no kids. They just don’t want to do “work stuff” outside of work hours, so I don’t think that comic really applies.

    Personal experience w/ SO about similar realization

    Over the past year or two, my wife has gotten really stressed by the kids, so I (male) have taken over a lot of the tasks involving the kids. I make breakfast and lunch and drop the kids at school every day, then more often than not make dinner when I finish work, and I put the kids to bed every night. My wife is a SAHM, but she’s had a ton of issues with anxiety recently, so she’s mostly been caring for the youngest (4yo) and picking up the others from school. All the kids are quite independent now and mostly play with the neighbors, and she makes dinner 1-2x/week. I do almost all of the shopping, laundry, dishes, etc, but she still stresses about those despite not doing much of it (again, anxiety).

    We have a very different way of working on household tasks. When I’m short on time, I do the urgent things first and intentionally ignore the less important details to be handled later (usually the weekend). When she is short on time, she’ll stay up late and do all the details while also doing the important things, then she’s burnt out for the next few days (understandable) and things degrade back to where they were. I think the average level of tidiness and amount of work is similar between our approaches.

    So she has essentially retained the mental load, even though I’ve taken the lion’s share of the actual work. Just seeing a mess stresses her out, whereas for me, a mess is just an obstacle that I can work around in the short-term. It’s not that I don’t see the mess, just that I’m a lot more focused on the task than the broader picture.

    My thought is that this is a bunch of latent guilt stemming from her upbringing. She grew up in an E. Asian household, with all of the social expectations and whatnot, so when she sees a mess, she takes it as a personal attack on not being a good enough home maker. I had a similar upbringing, where my mom stayed home w/ us kids and my dad was the sole breadwinner. However, when I was a teenager, my mom started to work outside the house and my dad was able to WFH more, so they shared the household responsibilities a bit more (she still did laundry and shopping, but my dad did more cooking and dishes). My in-laws have had a similar transition (MIL works, FIL takes SS and doesn’t work), but my MIL still keeps the same responsibilities she always had.

    So, I’ve been trying to have things a bit more complete, even if in just one area, rather than spreading efforts around the house, and it seems to have a much bigger impact on her anxiety than what I would normally do. I’ve also listed all of the household chores, and we’ll be assigning explicit responsibility of tasks to the kids (they had them as chores, but there was no formal handover of responsibility), as well as offering the kids incentives to take on additional tasks (in our case, that means spending money). My goal is to reduce her mental load and enable her to think about things outside of the home to hopefully get over the anxiety issues she’s been facing.

    To me, this totally confirms the gist of that post. Taking away the work of a task still leaves the mental load of that task.

    That said, I think there’s something more here though. I think men see work as a end in itself, whereas women see it as a means to an end (i.e. men want to hunt despite it being less efficient, because the trophy is the point). I’m sure there’s a ton of variability there, but I wonder if there’s more than just culture at play here (i.e. the above mentality also makes sense in a hunter/gatherer context; men do the big, showy things, while women do the consistent work of the tribe). I don’t know, what I do know is that none of the women I know have hobbies that are similar to the work they do, even if they find their work to be fulfilling.

  • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.workstoSelfhosted@lemmy.world•Syncthing Android app discontinuedEnglish
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    19 days ago

    To be fair, the project page says this:

    The password manager SDK is not intended for public use and is not supported by Bitwarden at this stage. It is solely intended to centralize the business logic and to provide a single source of truth for the internal applications. As the SDK evolves into a more stable and feature complete state we will re-evaluate the possibility of publishing stable bindings for the public. The password manager interface is unstable and will change without warning.

    So there are two ways this can go:

    • they complete the refactor and release it as FOSS
    • they complete the refactor and change the clients to be proprietary

    I’m going to stick with them until I see what they do once they complete the refactor.