Not a professional, just another meat bag trying to figure his own stuff out. Good job on the introspection. Some times just seeing our own behavior can be difficult. Getting help from a professional is always a good plan. Until then, I would suggest continuing to be mindful of that you do this and make a focused effort to pay attention to the emotions your are feeling when you do these things. Other than that, what are the things you DO want to do? When you you try take these new actions, what are your emotions at these times?

P.S. Being more self aware is a skill. Don’t be surprised if it your not very good at it to start.

• Planned Parenthood - Gave my wife quality routine medical care when were broke.
• Pfblocker - fuck ads
• Physics Girl - I gave hospice care to my Dad for a couple months. That was literally the hardest most painful experience of my life. I can’t imagine surviving giving full time care to someone for years like her husband has. Me chipping in a couple bucks every month might help reduce money stress in a small way.
• Harris campaign - I would like Democracy to continue and the opposition seems directly against that happening.

My experience is that it almost always does what I ask. The problem is that some times I don’t ask it to do what I want it to do in the exact way it will understand.

Remove the birthday aspect and think about what sounds enjoyable. Maybe you start with a night out with your SO. Ok, does adding more people sound better, about the same, worse?

I think you are mixing a party for other people and a party for yourself. Both are fine, but they may not be compatible with each other.

I just wish I could but a fucking service manual. Seems like like the only way is to get access to a digital copy through a subscription service. I don’t need service manuals for every car made, just mine.

https://github.com/containrrr/watchtower

You don’t want hardware raid. Some options you can research:

• Mdadm - Linux software raid
• ZFS - Combo raid and filesystem
• Btrfs - A filesystem that can also do raid things

Some OS options to consider:

• Debian - good if you want to learn to do everything yourself
• Truenas Scale - Comercial NAS OS. I bit of work to get started, but very stable once going.
• Unraid - Enthusiast focused NAS OS. Not as stable as Truenas, but easier to get started and a lot of community support.

There are probably other software/OS’s to consider, but those are the ones I have any experience with. I personally use ZFS on Truenas with a lot of help from this YouTube channel. https://youtube.com/@lawrencesystems?si=O1Z4BuEjogjdsslF

There are mod packs that add a lot of content and progression. As much as I like Minecraft, vanilla gets boring fast. Check out curseforge if you want to check it out.

I would also make sure you have a Proxmox install USB ready to go just in case.

I can’t give you specifics but generally what is likely necessary:

1. Backup anything important. You will be doing things that risk loosing data.
2. Make a bootable USB with a live Linux.
3. Look up instructions on resizing partitions.
4. Boot into the live Linux from the USB
5. Resize your existing Proxmox partition

I am running Plex with an Intel A40 in Ubuntu server. Worked well for me as Ubuntu had the drivers baked in before they made there way into a Debian release.

In general checkout LearnLinuxTV on YouTube. Lots of good guides.

Good call. How are you? Have you had enough water today?

Are you certain? They could be making clothing with divisive messages.

/Jk

Other people have suggested good info to gain nuisanced knowledge. I recommend starting with a simple fact. With enough time and/or the right conditions all storage will fail. Design your setup with redundancy. I personally had to replace 2x 12tb drives this year. I have raidz3 (3 parity drives) and a hot spare. So I just bought cheap replacements from a reputable seller on eBay and consider it part of the cost of self hosting.

Just put them in a separate library and only share it with people that ask for it.

A used older desktop is a good starting machine. I think Unraid is a good starting point as the community is more welcome to completely new people needing a lot of help. Also this channel has a tone of good guides for Unraid: https://youtube.com/@SpaceinvaderOne?si=A8BWLbMq42KzHD8I

I suggest starting off cheap to learn. Then you can spend money as you determine what is necessary based on problems you encounter. One VERY important thing to remember is that HDDs fail, power surges kill motherboards, water leaks kill the whole thing. If you don’t want to loose family photos, MAKE SURE YOU HAVE IT BACKED UP OFF YOUR SERVER. Preferably “off-site”.

Yes. The important detail is that it remounts the path once the path gets called. So I setup a cron job to “ls” the path every few minutes to make sure it’s always remounted quickly.

Try looking into “autofs”.

I think 2 good concepts come to mind to help you make choices:

1. Least privilege - Only give things/people just enough access/authority to get the job done. A good example is sonarr doesn’t need access to your personal photos to do it’s job, so don’t give it access if to them.
2. Defense in layers - Nothing is perfect and you can make mistakes in configuration. Don’t rely on a single point of failure to protect you. If you want remote access use a VPN. But also take steps in your network like putting a password on the logins.