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Cake day: June 16th, 2023

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  • I have to agree to disagree.

    I often do find myself more likely to talk about gender specific issues when I know that the space I’m in will make an effort to exclude those people who don’t understand that some topics aren’t for them. I have seen, time and again, how any topic focusing on the issues of a specific gender will bring out hordes of people to scream about how this exclusion is somehow evil or wrong just because it excludes them.

    Gender specific conversations draw out trolls like nothing else.





  • I didn’t read it as grumpy or defensive! One thing I miss about a more civilized age… people were allowed to “argue.” You could fight it out, have opinions, everyone could be right at the same time (and wrong, too) but the ability to converse seems to be lost.

    We’re all made better by these things! Even if it seems to get heating. Being able to talk (and disagree!) Sharpens our understanding of our topics, helps us work through and solidify our feelings and opinions, and (assuming everyone is speaking in good faith, which is a big ask on the internet) we are all made better for it!

    I said good deal because it is! I called you friend cuz we are! I said have a good day because I hope you do!

    We part as friends! We aren’t enemies even if we may seem at odds. Take care of yourself. You’re a person who deserves happiness and kindness in life.




  • I’m not going to get into my history here but I’ve spent years in and out of institutions. If you want to make the argument that this is schizoaffective disorder I won’t stop you, but I assure you that even if that is the case, we are still completely responsible for what we say, and I would argue even moreso because there is zero excuse for him not to be seeking care and treatment.

    When grandma has dementia, and spits and bites, she is still responsible for the consequences of her actions. We will treat her with kindness and compassion and health care, but she isn’t absolved of her part in hurting someone. That is the notion I rebel against. You are still responsible for your racism. You are not given a consequence free card because of your illness. Advocating for a consequence free environment is why people can claim Kanye should be forgiven and should not be treated as an intelligent, thinking, feeling human being. I will not allow someone to say he should be. That is dehumanizing and ultimately the opposite of kindness.