Dharma Curious (he/him)

Also a gay man, and yeah. No sexual attraction to boobs at all. I’ve played with straight girl boobs while drunk, because straight girls do that when you’re in your teens and early 20s, but it’s always been sort of a drunk funning around thing, not a sex thing. I have the exact same amount of sexual attraction to girl boobs as I have to, like, knees. They’re a body part, that’s about it.

I’m half way through a bachelor’s at 33, and we’re working on applying for a home loan through the USDA. But honestly, I can’t really bear to think about it. She’s my life. I don’t know that I’ll make it through that.

We’ve been poor my whole life, and my mom is disabled. Our income consists of her disability and my paycheck, that I get from the state for being her caregiver. While I could never do this, she has literally asked me to do this out of concern for me should anything happen

My favorite way out of that situation was to tell them that the registers were automatically shut down at closing. Literally no way to ring up a purchase. It worked most of the time

I agree they should have stopped at the time. But going back after having left the scene initially accomplishes nothing of value. It may or may not be illegal. Already crossed that line. It accomplishes an arbitrary responsibility that serves nothing but upsetting the owner of the dog again. We’re probably not going to agree about it, I guess. I wouldn’t try to talk someone out of going back, but having been on the victim side of this (and the driver’s side, with a cat, where I did stop and talk to the owner), I would not advise they go back after having already made the mistake of leaving initially. Best argument is “I had to get my kid to school” which, to the grieving family, may well sound like “my schedule was more important than your beloved pet’s life.” That’s irrational, of course, but grief is not rational.

Personally, I would gone immediately. That said, it was a high stress, emotional, and scary situation. What’s done is done, there’s nothing that going back now would accomplish. If you really feel bad enough to go back and explain what happened, I would suggest a letter instead. Let’s you get it off your chest, let’s the owner know what happened, and doesn’t risk a physical altercation because the owner is upset about you not stopping immediately.

If it makes you feel any better, I’ve had 3 dogs hit by cars. The first survived, the driver did not stop. A neighbor told us. The second was lost and it took me hours to find him because the driver did not stop. It was devastating, and frankly, I’ve never gotten over his death. He was small, though, and it was night. I work off the assumption the driver thought he was a opossum or raccoon or something.

The third was hit twice, both times the driver stopped. Both times the driver was just as upset as I was, and we comforted each other. It wasn’t their fault. It was my fault for not staying in top of fence maintaince, or assuming because I live in the middle of nowhere that’s it’s safe to let them run. Most dog owners aren’t going to blame you, unless you’re driving recklessly or aiming for the dog.

You’re okay. It’s a horrible situation, but you didn’t do it on purpose, you didn’t do it out of malice. You’re still a good person. Be nice to yourself and try to move past this.

Sadly no. She’s dropped her support for Medicare for all. We’ll be closer than likely ever before, and we might get an option to buy in to Medicare or Medicaid, our two government run systems. If we ever got enough in Congress and Senate to push Medicare for all through, I’m pretty sure she’d sign it, and I don’t think she’s fight against it, but her focus is on Obamacare, because she’s now so tied to the Obama admin through Biden.

Anything even remotely phallic shaped and sized has probably been used like that by someone. Depends on how horny you are, both in the moment, and as a person in general. I’m a guy, but during puberty, when I was exploring masturbation and bottoming, lemme tell you, nothing was safe from getting fucked or fucking me.

I wouldn’t be overly concerned about your produce, though. Most folks would toss it afterwards. If you notice your cucumbers or bananas going missing, then it might be cause for concern. But honestly, if your kids are at that age, and you’re genuinely concerned they’re doing something that might cause harm, the bigger concern is a lack of information about safe sex. A no questions asked Amazon gift card is one idea, but I’d recommend finding a good book or website you trust with sex Ed info, including safe solo sex practices, and an agreement that packages that come in their name aren’t to be opened by anyone else. In my experience, parents who trust their kids and don’t snoop or invade their privacy have way less to worry about from their kids than the parents who toss their rooms. My friends with the strictest parents had great hiding spots, I never even tried to find any. Didn’t need to hide anything, and as embarrassing as it would have been had I gotten a cucumber stuck up there or something, I would have been able to tell my mom and get a ride to the ER. If your kids seriously don’t trust you not to freak out, they could end up literally dying because the embarrassment would be worse than not dealing with a medical issue.

What cartoon is this from? I swear I’ve seen this, and it’s driving me crazy

Totally agreed. But I’m saying it. We’re fucked. Even if Trump loses, best case scenario is a couple years of delay. We’re not addressing any root problems, and a trump loss only plays into the idea that we’re somehow destined to avoid the shit that happens elsewhere.

We really are fucked

Okay, so, American here who has been telling fellow Americans “it can happen here” for years about various shit. Because I know it can. There’s no reason it can’t.

But seeing someone use that expression to say that something happening in the US could happen elsewhere just made that phrase click in a terrifying way.

It can happen here.

It has already happened

Oh God

It was pretty great. I got paid (barely lol) for sitting on my ass and playing video games. I only wish I had had the foresight to use that time to go to college online instead of PlayStation or embroidery taking up the time.

I used to host a d&d game, and since I love to cook, would normally make a meal beforehand for everyone to enjoy before we play. One week we made flatbread, homemade hummus, toom, and a bunch of other things in a similar vein.

Only one friend ate the toom with me. Everyone left around 10pm. At 11pm he and his fiance were knocking on our door. She said he had to sleep over tonight because the garlic stink was just too much. Lmao.

We stayed up most of the night eating more garlic. Lmao

Used to have the same car while working security. Id often have to sleep in it between shifts, as it would be too expensive to drive home between shifts if I was far away. Id also sometimes have only 6 hours between shifts, making it make more sense to just crash in the car. I had an inverter tied to the battery, a small solar panel gorilla glued to the roof, and 3 car batteries in the trunk. A box fan in the passenger window, a 24 inch TV and a PlayStation would often come with me, too. Had a fucking kettle and a redi-set-go pizza cooker that was a beast for cooking just about anything. Effectively I would live in that car for several days out of the week, sitting in it during my shift playing PlayStation, and sleeping in it wherever I could find between shifts.

Oh damn, that TV guide tip is genius! We used to handwrite on a post it and then cover it with packing tape to kind of laminate it.

My folks were also too cheap/broke to buy blank VHS tapes, so we used to get regular movies at yard sales and cover the little tab area with electrical tape. Lol.

That’s an example of a shitty location, though. Had McDonald’s done that would people hold that view of all McDonald’s?

Not racism in the “fuck those [insert slur here]s.” Racism in the sense of subtle background stereotypes that are super pervasive. Think queer villains in media. Msg was associated with Chinese food and ended up with a bad (and false) rap because of it. Mexican and Mexican ish foods are associated with stomach upset and GI issues. Chipotles has a similar stigma. It’s a cultural hang over from a time when outright discrimination and stereotyping was more acceptable. It’s not necessarily something we’re aware of doing when we do it, made even more insidious by virtue of people who do not hold negative views perpetuating the same stereotype because of our own lack of awareness to it.

If taco bell is sending you to the bathroom it’s because you’re ordering beans and you’re not used to beans and lots of fiber. That’s not the fault of taco Bell.

Also, it’s the easiest fast food option for vegetarians and vegans, and as such has (in theory at least) a much better environmental footprint than the others. Fast food ain’t great, but Taco bell does not deserve the reputation it has. And while I am absolutely not assuming it’s why you said it, I can’t help but think the reason the whole taco bell equals poops thing is so prevalent is because of underlying racist sentiments, the same as with Chinese food and msg.

The Mahabharata podcast, both the one by Lawrence Manzo and Aarti Dhand. I haven’t checked in a long time, but Aarti’s wasn’t finished yet. Lawrence’s is. Both are fantastic.