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  • But in my neck of the woods plenty of people owned a PC before Windows networking AND ISPs were reliable lol

    Like yes I had Internet at home, but sometimes it didn’t work very well, sometimes it was really slow, etc.

    For years, it was almost normal in a small town to have an ethernet cable routed from your neighbour’s house to yours, share a connection. Guess what, it’ll be slow as shit when they’re using it too. Or if the router needs to be restarted for some reason and they’re not home? Welp.

    Why did we have that setup? Estonia over 20 years ago was still pretty poor. This whole ADSL thing was pretty new too, it cost quite a bit. I found an article from that period and turns out in 2003 there were three main providers. Starman at 149 EEK per month, Eesti Telefon at 345 and Uninet at 800. I have no idea about Uninet, but Starman was only available in a couple of cities and even in those cities I think it was mostly just apartment buildings. Minimum monthly salary BEFORE tax was 2160 EEK. First 1000 EEK per month was income tax free, on the other 1160 EEK you’d be taxed 26% so 301 EEK. The remaining 1859 EEK, and this is with only income tax deducted, nothing else, is equivalent to 119.16 euros. 345 EEK for internet is 22 euros and change. Imagine spending 18% of your income on an Internet connection!

    Still, a computer was becoming necessary for schoolwork. Researching subjects online, printing out homework, etc. If you didn’t have one at home, you’d need to use computer class at the end of the day, or go to the library. Having one at home got me into gaming and tinkering with software and the tinkering got me into programming at the age of ~13 and you can guess what I do for a living now.



  • Oh most definitely. I just pointed it out because everyone talks about how men are never there for their children and partners, and nobody ever talks about how some men can’t be because of abusive partners who tell you you’re lazy when you only work 60-70 hours a week to feed her lifestyle.

    I’m probably in the minority here and I’m sure a lot of men are deadbeats for real, but this subject really gets my goat because even my own friends think I’m an asshole for working too much and not being at home enough, while the truth is, it’s my own wife who would rather I work 100 hours instead of, like said, 60-70. I just haven’t told them what’s truly going on in my life.

    When I eventually serve her the papers I’ve been dreading, it’ll be with an offer that our child can live with me rather than her if she can’t handle it like she keeps saying. I won’t even ask her to pay me child support if she agrees.

    Maybe this rant wasn’t needed here on this topic, but I needed to get it out, I can’t tell people in real life because I don’t really like badmouthing people even when it’s all true. Plus she is the mother of my child, she went through all kinds of hell for 9 months.

    Anyway, I think Alexis is approaching all this from the wrong angle. Instead of robots taking care of everything at home, it should be possible to take longer parental leave (for both parents, not just mothers) and work less hours after that. I imagine a lot of men would love to spend more time with their kids, but it’s often the financial and career stress that is so important, especially if you get scolded at home for not making enough money. But then again, he seems to support parental leave too. I was VERY surprised at some parts of this paragraph in the article:

    In recent years, Ohanian has become a vocal advocate for paternal leave, an area in which he said the tech industry has “led the way” for working parents. He worked with President Donald Trump’s first administration to encourage a 12-week paid parental leave for all federal workers, which Trump signed into law in 2019 during his first term.

    (emphasis on parts I found particularly surprising)

    Also to be clear, when I said in my original comment:

    Moral of the story is, fathers should do more around the house and take care of children too, but nobody should let their partner guilt trip them into what’s essentially a 140+ hour work week. Both parents need sleep and some time off. Partners should have equal workloads.

    I did truly mean both parents should get sleep and time off. Not the “men work hard and need to rest after work” excuse you hear a lot. I do recognize that raising a child is hard work - I, too, get tired when I’m alone all day with the baby. I meant both that fathers shouldn’t guilt their partners into raising children alone and doing all the chores alone, and at the same time (and I acknowledge this is WAY less common), fathers with abusive partners need to recognize it and stand for balance instead of literally sleeping <10 hours a week by drinking energy drinks all day and abusing ADHD medication by taking double doses and only at night not in the morning like you’re normally supposed to take them.


  • I won’t argue against the fact that fathers should be more present, but what that meant in our case was that I slept 10 hours a week because I was with the baby all day and then worked all night while tending to the baby whenever she woke up, while the mom did nothing but sleep all day and drive around with her friends and complained that she didn’t have enough free time. After that I told her that if I have to be there for the baby all the time, she better get a job. She did not like that idea.

    Moral of the story is, fathers should do more around the house and take care of children too, but nobody should let their partner guilt trip them into what’s essentially a 140+ hour work week. Both parents need sleep and some time off. Partners should have equal workloads.






  • He’s also pro-Israel and at this point in time, I reckon that zionists are morally on a similar level to nazis, and David Schwimmer does support them. Or at least he was at an ADL event recently and I don’t think I’ve heard him say genocide is bad?

    However, the comment a couple of levels up is incorrect. Upon just a little bit of research, I’ve discovered Schwimmer has also attended BLM protests, and has spoken out against violence against women as well. Which means he does actually care about injustice and I’m gonna have to add a disclaimer to my previous comment.

    Anyway, my comment in its original form was meant as mostly anti-rich-celebrity. To be clear, I’m anti-zionist too, but not antisemitic and never meant to come across that way. My thought process was that anyone living in America who truly cares about injustice in general should be worried about injustice against black people and latinos first and foremost, other ethnicities and religions second, so anyone who only wakes up when it’s injustice against Jews, is probably either a bit self-centered, or outright zionist. Well, David Schwimmer clearly didn’t JUST wake up, he’s been woke for a long time now. To be clear, I mean that as a good thing.