My wife had a forgotten bill get sent to small claims instead of actually contacting her. As soon as it hit the small claims court system she got inundated with ads from law firms offering to represent her

They say it doesn’t but my real world experience is that you have to re-register every year or three. But it definitely makes a difference in the legal spam callers at least

The biggest challenge with believing in extra terrestrial beings visiting earth is just the sheer size of space. The closest solar system to Earth is Alpha Centauri which is over 4 light years away. By our current understanding of physics it is impossible to travel faster than light, so any visitors from Alpha Centauri would have had to travel for centuries if not millennia to get here (going really fast requires a ton of energy amongst other engineering challenges) simply put interstellar travel is so prohibitively slow and expensive that it will likely be reserved purely for colonization/exploration or only for the most dire of needs.

But on top of the sheer challenge of interstellar travel is the challenge of timing. The earth is 4 billion years old and the universe is around 13 billion years old. How would a visitor traveling for centuries know that the time is right to visit? How would they know we won’t have experienced an extinction event by the time they get here? Would they even know we exist by the time they leave to visit? Or even more existentially, Humans have only been around for about 200k years or 0.0066% of the Earth’s lifetime so far. Imagine a duplicate of earth with the same history and occupants but forming just 0.1 billion years earlier. If the human equivalents are still around on that clone-earth their civilization would be literally older than the dinosaurs are here. Except there are planets both billions of years older and newer than earth, so how many of those have previously hosted intelligent life that’s since experienced an extinction event, and how many of those will one day have intelligent life form on them?

Basically extra terrestrial life is inevitable in this universe, but the chances of humans ever meeting an intelligent life form from another planet is basically 0 due to the sheer scale of time and space separating us from anywhere and anywhen such intelligent life might exist

For public facing only use key based authentication. Passwords have too much risk associated for public facing ssh

I’m guilty of 8am yardwork, but mostly mowing in the hottest part of summer at the coolest part of the day. I’m also guilty of 8pm yardwork when it’s just the only time I can find to get it done. I only mow once every 2-4 weeks depending on how much my grass has grown, so I figure that balances it out somewhat

The Sims 2 had wonderful keyboard shortcuts for toggling walls and jumping between floors via Home and End and Page up and Page Down respectively and this was carried through to The Sims 4

Before instance blocking was a thing I blocked individual trolls wheb I saw them and after about the fifth block I didn’t see a lot of hexbear, so it they have a few very loud individuals but instance blocking hexbear really made my browsing a lot more chill

Try to take a couple of minutes to look up at the sky every day. Whether it’s pretty clouds or a cool plane or the moon and the stars. Seems too many people end up missing what’s right over their heads

I feel this. I recently hit 10 years on my steam account and kinda came to the realization that “I’ve spent thousands of hours in some of these games and what do I have to show for it?” So I’ve been cutting back on my time gaming, and trying other things.

It sucks though because video games are one of the cheapest hobbies. Spend about $500-1000 on a decent gaming computer every 3-10 years then $20-40 here and there on games as they tickle your fancy

But I’ve developed a joy for fitness which is cool. I started biking and on March I struggled to make it around the (very hilly) 1/4 mile block but now I’m biking 8 miles a day.

Anyways I’m looking at the finances and barring some unscheduled catastrophe, I should be good to start a more expensive hobby actually making stuff next year…I hope

Personally I’m luckyish in having the opposite problem from most, I’ve been entirely unable to gain weight, and before I started working out to put on muscle weight I weighed about 120 lbs

One of the fun parts about rapidly building muscle is your body will start asking for healthier foods. I’ve had a couple of times where I’ll make a big steaming plate of veggies and be all about it until the moment I put some in my mouth and went “oh yeah, I still don’t like steamed broccoli stems”

I also yesterday tried to challenge myself on a new personal record distance in biking, and was biking in the morning rather than the evening like I usually do. I quickly learned that I need a very different fuel in my body first thing in the morning if I’m going to be engaging in physical activity shortly later.

Crackpot theory: pictured poster is trying to do a twin study, giving one twin medical care in accordance to generally accepted best practices and the other almond mom style care but they want to control variables by having them see the same doctor. I look forward to reading their study when they publish it in 2-18 years depending on if the one participant survives

I do not see any “no diving” signs on the toilet tank. That is a pool of water of less than 8 feet so someone might think they can try diving into it if they don’t have a sign to remind them not to!

I’ve been slowly digging through their discography and holy crap

Realistically, in order to hook up you need the social skills that come from forming and maintaining human connections in order to not immediately make your perspective partner run for the hills the moment you open your mouth. Sure one might be able to get lucky in spite of a lack of any social experience, but that’s about as likely as winning it big in lottery

Key here is that anyone can do small talk. You have to have ZERO knowledge about the subject matter. You can just ask questions. Anyone interested in a topic will usually be happy to answer them

Fucking hell. I needed that. I’ve somehow never put that all together by this point

Any sexual relationship will rely on a foundation of some amount of friendship. A human connection, if you will. There’s a reason the terms are “fuckbuddy” and “friends with benefits” and not just “sex toy”

If you want a sex toy just go buy a sex toy from the shop

I fell down an incel-adjacent rabbithole when I was a teenager and young adult and while I was physically isolated (lived with my parents in the suburbs but my parents hadn’t bothered to teach me to drive, so getting around was a royal pain in the butt. Realistically I could’ve done more but youth truly is wasted on the young) I then for “reasons” socially isolated myself by avoiding online communities where i could have met people. I had really bad acne that brought my self-esteem to zero (in hindsight the acne was about the 5th least attractive thing about me at that time) and was struggling to complete a college degree in the wrong field while also failing to work enough to be able to afford to move out (again, hindsight 20/20 I had things I could have done but didn’t)

Because I didn’t interact with anyone outside of my household, my social skills never grew and probably deteriorated. I was depressed and felt trapped, I believed myself to be “too autistic” to do things that could help, and it was all around a pretty unhappy time in my life.

I happened to meet my now-wife on an online dating site, and we’ve both reflected and determined we were both in similarly bad but different places at that time. She had gained a bunch of weight (I seem to have a wider attractive range for weight than most people so this wasn’t a problem for me) and was moving on from her nth abusive boyfriend. Honestly my lack of social skills at the time made it so there were times where I flat out said something incredibly hurtful without realizing it. She’s since told me that she put up with that because “at least I wasn’t physically abusive” (single dudes, the bar you need to meet is so, so low)

Anyways we both have since grown a lot as people and have both grown into fairly functioning adults. We both have more to grow (we both really need to get our respective executive dysfunctions under control), and sometimes we’ve grown apart, but we’ve kept growing back together.

I started working out because I was super weak and just had a kid, and I realized there was a legitimate risk that I wouldn’t be able to pick up my own child, so I started doing some strength training and holy crap this is amazing. Then I went back to college and lost my workout schedule, but after college I started running the following super smokey summer and didn’t make much progress, but this summer I’ve picked up biking and I’m currently up to about 3 miles of extremely hilly biking every day.

I seriously forgot how fun biking is, and it’s also nice just how much healthier I feel from the regular fitness

Saddest part of sovcitizenry is it usually starts when someone is in a legal and/or financial bind and meet a grifter who tells them there’s a secret second system that will make their problems go away if they just say the right magic words (which is partially true. In most legal and financial challenges you have routes you can take to get out of them with the least amount of pain, and both mean sending the right paperwork to the right person at the right time, and usually including the right payments as well) but these grifters cause the poor souls to dig themselves in deeper so that they end up in a mountain of increasingly difficult to manage trouble whereas they previously just had a molehill that they needed someone to help them find the right solution to manage

I have memories of some random afternoons at the consulting firm my mom worked at, where everyone’s just poking at spreadsheets. I can’t imagine how cool the memory of going into the server farm and doing some hardware work there would be