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  • 🩸💀 𝔗𝚎𝚑 𝔅𝚊𝚖𝚜𝚔𝚒 💀🩸@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•What "deals" have you made with yourself that are real and practical for your purposes?English
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    15 days ago

    After working several months at a grocery store that was supposed to ‘just keep me busy for a time’ while I looked for a better job and allowed me time to study digital marketing, I soon found myself in a dark place.

    I was working at a grocery chain, making only the state minimum wage at the age of 29. I had no intention of keeping it more than three months, and intended to obtain a handful of digital marketing certifications and finish a course I had just purchased, all while working there. But depression, my ADHD-I, self-worth issues, hopelessness, loneliness, and anxiety… all got in my way. I found myself dreading going to work. I dreaded this becoming my long term future. Just over a month in (is my best guess,) is when I started to get suicidal ideations. I knew I needed to change things, but nearly all of the things that would help seemed unreachable for me. I fought myself for weeks, as to whether I was being unreasonable about my situation, or was there really a valid reason to quit and go back to working some temp jobs, while I pieced things together more. Unfortunately, my self-esteem had suffered some hits from my job before. And now I just felt stuck in a crappy life, all over again. Just working dead end jobs, and just to make that ‘all mighty dollar.’ My soul was in rough shape, and I felt like I was losing my mind as the days passed. I started to experience a higher and more pressing suicidal ideation, while at work and at home. I wanted out so badly, and was so ashamed of where I was in my life that I was considering death over any other alternatives. I bought into a lot of the falsehoods that my depression spoke. And I just never seemed to be able to stay afloat long enough to get out.

    I ended up being fired after working there for 7 months and having been switched twice to other job positions, then working as a cashier. I had a lot of mixed feelings about it. Glad that I could move on, but knew that I personally didn’t have anything to fall back on right away. I learned a lot about myself from that whole experience, but the majority only came to me years later. Such as, it takes a lot for me to find a job, and once I have it, I won’t easily move on. Even if it’s heavily wearing on my mental health. It kinda broke something inside of me, and it would take almost a year before I started working again.

    Many other things happened after that, but the main thing was, I started taking my mental health level very seriously. I wasn’t going to allow for a paycheck, to destroy what I had been building up for years and years to have. I wasn’t going to allow myself to sink so deep ever again!

  • 🩸💀 𝔗𝚎𝚑 𝔅𝚊𝚖𝚜𝚔𝚒 💀🩸@lemmy.worldtoFunny@sh.itjust.works•Right of wayEnglish
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    23 days ago

    Hmmm. I’ll ask.

    What country do you live in?

    As for me, the US isn’t that great when it comes to providing ubiquitous bike lanes throughout the cities (though this is very contingent on what city you’re in, i.e., Portland, Oregon, Boulder, Colorado, or even New York (City), New York). But for the vast majority of cyclists in the US, don’t have anything except the general road or street to travel on.

    But let’s say there were bike lanes. Depending on which country you live in, these would be the laws you would follow. Take a moment and use the webpage search and look up “obligatory” on there.

    Now, let’s say that there are lanes but they are shared with vehicles. Often these are called a, Shared Lane with markings. This design idea is to make it safer for cyclists and vehiclists to know that the road is to be shared and where. Sharing the lane comes into play for various reasons. A common one is when a cyclist has to go around something on the side of the street or road. That could be anything from a delivery truck parked on the side, a car in a pick up area, or just a car parked on the side of the road/street as shown here. There are of course, times when there isn’t a bike lane in certain sections of the street, and thus a lane ends up being needed for more than just one person’s mobility needs. While it’s more common for cyclists to be passing by things on the side of the street, it’s not wrong for them to be in the middle of the road or street if they are planning to turn across the oncoming traffic. The common sense reason for this allowance is that they, just like anyone else, are trying to get somewhere in a reasonable time. And having to always pull off to the crosswalk and wait for it to switch traffic flow and indicate your chance takes a lot of time. Imagine having to cross a street in your vehicle, but every time you have to stop to cross, you have to push your car a bit to get it going. It would get tiring sooner than later, huh? Well, the same feeling is had with cyclists. Hence why they use the turn lanes to get over faster than otherwise.

    But why can’t they just use the sidewalks and crosswalks!? As for the US, it’s a mixed bag of reasons and a lack thereof. You see, this isn’t just a patchwork of laws in the states. This is also happening at the county, city, or town levels of law. You can learn more here.

    Some other things worth mentioning. There are lots of resources that cover bicycle and e-bike laws. Here’s a solid pick. The Center For Cycling Education