While I am a stranger and me saying sorry probably doesn’t help much. That stuff sucks and I am sorry you had to deal with it. People have it in their head that we are all supposed to love our family and just get along but people don’t realize that families are sometimes just people who didn’t love us or loved us less than we loved them or vice versa loved us more than we loved them. Family is tricky. It doesn’t sound like you were close and I don’t know your entire story but either way it is a loss and regardless of him not being there for you it says a lot that you were at the very least there for him. Which, in my opinion, is the most you can do.

I hope you are the person that carries that forward and uses that as a means to not walk out on others lives when they need you most and I hope in return they are a part of yours when you are on your way out of this world. Enjoy your holidays.

Elitism: the advocacy or existence of an elite as a dominating element in a system or society.

What you just described is exactly how elitism works. I understand the hate for Facebook and all of Meta’s products. However, this is exactly how gate keeping starts. I don’t want to see the fediverse go anywhere more than the next person but it becomes contradicting and hypocritical to the entire establishment of the fediverse if Lemmy or other federated apps begin to decide who can and can’t be federated. That is the whole image right? To prevent gate keeping and to establish that not one person owns any one portion of Lemmy, Mastodon, etc. However, what happens when an entity on Lemmy does start deciding to defederate a Conglomerate starts making decisions just like Facebook? The does Lemmy not start fitting the bill of not being able to tolerate the intolerance as well? To me that becomes elitism the very thing Lemmy users swear is a perfect system.

I don’t believe Meta is good for anyone or anything but Lemmy users need to understand that you can’t say, “we are different.” And then justifying the very contradiction of being exactly the same by just saying, “Facebook takes freedom.” I don’t like Facebook infact fuck them but either Lemmy users admit they need to play the game like Facebook and that someone controls who is a part of content and who isn’t or they don’t. Just stop trying to find ways that this would be “different” just fucking say, “we want to control the content that is on the platform and who can be a part of it.” Because now you are playing the Meta game on their own terf. Just tired of Lemmy users thinking they are special.

The cons should just blame this on Taylor Swift as well.

I don’t really check Lemmy that often. Hence why my usage has dropped off. I also have become less and less involved with social media over all, but I apologize where apologies are due if I happen to stumble upon something I said.

I regularly check history when I am on to see what was said. My Lemmy history isn’t great. I haven’t had an easy time getting integrated into Lemmy as I think it is just like Reddit.

Your comment, I read in a different context. It wasn’t until I went back and looked at my history of the comment you were looking at that I grasped what you were actually trying to do. I read it in the opposite light. I essentially thought you were saying, "well I found a post where they weren’t talking about Linux and big corpo but I got it backwards.

I owed you an apology regardless of time.

Honestly, I apologize. I didn’t read your comment like that at all and I genuinely apologize.

Man, Lemmy users also take things far more literal.

My activity dropped because I can’t enter a single thread that isn’t about, big corpo, Linux, and how I shouldn’t spend money.

“(on Reddit (/comments/). yuck!)”

Guys, we fucking get it. You hate mainstream apps like reddit but the solutions aren’t on Lemmy until someone finds them elsewhere like reddit.

Do we really need to emphasize our hate for something every damn time we make a post. Thanks for the solution but why couldn’t you have just posted the solution.

God I hate Lemmy, they want a bigger user base to stay away from content controlled by big corps and to move to federated content but will shove their ideals on the community every time and that is what keeps pushing people wanting to stay here away. We don’t need to hear about FOSS and Linux every time. And we get it. We hate reddit that is why the user base moved here.

EDIT: God I love Lemmy.

I have an entire conversation on here where the majority of Lemmy users told me democrats should start killing people.

Also, what fucking moderation?

My experience has been different. I feel like I see the same, “Linux is better.” Shit all the time. All the memes are also, “Windows user realizing this. Linux user not caring.”

Lemmy users also tend to be stuck in one mind set and that is they know what they are talking about all the time no matter what even if their opinion is actually kind of shit.