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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • The other reality of being a parent is that regret comes with the job.

    You try to do the best you can do, and you deal with your mistakes as best you can. None of us is perfect.

    I was talking to a work colleague about how I was agonizing over mistakes I made. He said if I’m concerned about my mistakes, then I’m doing ok. He said his parents never thought they made any mistakes or they didn’t care if they did. His attitude was if you’re trying, you’re a good parent.

    Of course, I didn’t stop agonizing over my mistakes. After all, what does he know? He had shitty parents!


  • Parents who perform unnecessary surgery on their children because society says they should are bad parents.

    That might seem harsh, but it’s true. You have a responsibility to make the right choices for your kids, and “society” doesn’t get a vote.

    I faced the same question, but found it to be a no-brainer. You don’t perform unnecessary surgery on a baby.

    The reason it is performed in the US is to stop boys from masturbating.

    Ignore any excuses for doing it that people have come up with since. That’s the only reason the US started doing it, and every other reason is just people trying to rationalize why they keep doing it.

    The “reasons” people come up with to explain it now are based on extremely unlikely events. All the serious issues that come up are avoided with proper hygiene. Unless they still have a stupid masturbation hangup, it all comes down to this:

    Parents feel icky about having to explain to their child how to wash their penis.

    If you can’t handle that, I’ll tell you right now that you’re going to have a hell of a lot tougher conversations.

    What I told them was to imagine they were wearing a hoodie in the shower. You’d need to pull the hood back before shampooing your hair. Same thing goes for the little head, but don’t use shampoo, that might burn.

    Not circumcising my kids only caused me one problem:

    My mom reacted like it was a direct personal attack on her, because I was circumcised. She saw it as me saying she was wrong. I found it difficult to convince her that I was not judging her. She didn’t have the same information available to her as I did. When I was born, she didn’t really have a choice.







  • Mid 50’s. I haven’t noticed any increase in recovery time from injuries or illness so far.

    I went through a period in my 30’s when I’d get sick with a cold in October/November and stay sick until March. I think more than anything else it was just catching every bug the kids brought home from school, and just going through a series of overlapping illnesses every year. It stopped when I hit 40.

    One thing I’d point out is that we never really recover from an injury. Our bodies are just in a perpetual state of trying to hold everything together.

    Lack of vitamin C will result in Scurvy. One of the effects of scurvy is that scars from injuries and surgeries just open up again. I interpret that as your body not being able to fake it anymore.

    If you’re having trouble healing, maybe eat an orange ;-)








  • I’m there to work and earn money, not to make friends, not to fake a friendship with any manager.

    That seems sad to me.

    I managed a team for a few years. Another team in our organization made a pitch to take two of the people from my team into theirs. I ended up going along with the plan because it was a way to quickly get them a salary increase that I’d been trying to get for them for years. The rest of my team got absorbed into another team in our group and I transitioned to a non-management role.

    We still chat constantly and we get together regularly for dinner. I consider them all close friends.

    Edit: I wanted to add: if you were wrong, you should apologize. It doesn’t matter who the person you wronged is. All that matters is your integrity.