Hey pal, FYI not all NonBinary experiences are the same. I commented sharing my experience. If your experience is different, you could’ve just said that instead of being rude or trying to say I’m wrong for feeling the way I do.

I’ve been harassed, yelled at, and insulted by women in the women’s room, but at least they never physically assaulted me. I don’t know if I could count on the men in the men’s room not to do the same and I’d rather not take the chance. I remember a story about a trans woman who was killed in the men’s room and it still gives me chills thinking about it.

I usually go in the women’s room because people clock me more feminine than masc. Men’s room is very risky because they might not care but they might also be violent. If the bathroom is busy I pee sitting down so no one sees my feet facing the wrong way, I don’t really like it and it feels awkward to do which is why I pee standing up when it’s not busy or no one else is in there. I have been caught a few times and the women gave me shit for it, though it was always yelling, chastising, or slurs, they never got violent with me. Most violent one got was grabbing my ear and escorting me out of the bathroom. I don’t know if I could trust the men to do the same. I heard a story of a trans woman who was physically and sexually assaulted and murdered in a men’s room. That story is very much burned into my mind.

I usually try to avoid public bathrooms in general but lately that’s been harder.

That’s what I usually do. Some people get mad or annoyed with me but I imagine it could be physically dangerous to go into the men’s room.

When you’re Nonbinary every bathroom feels like this, not because you don’t know which is which but because you don’t know which choice is more wrong or will get you in more trouble.