I recently used Jekyll (https://jekyllrb.com/) as a static site generator. I found it easy to use. I personally used Gitlab pages, because I didn’t feel confident hosting on my home internet (didn’t want to inadvertently cause issues for my housemates when I’m still learning this stuff).

The nice thing about static sites is that it’s pretty easy to find free or extremely cheap hosting for them.

Anti-vaxxers often do a lot of reading, ime. The stuff they read is often bullshit written by scammers or other people who drank the Kool-aid, but I think the “research” they do is a big part of the anti-vaxx culture. My view is that many who are drawn into conspiracy theories end up there due to a diminished sense of agency, and that the “research” is key to them feeling more in control — it gives them a false sense of understanding in which they can take all their bad feelings about how the world is, and construct a worldview in which they feel more oriented.

It reminds me a lot of the line “antisemitism is the socialism of fools”, though I feel like this is more like “anti-vax is the antiauthoritarianism of fools”. It’s frustrating because in some ways, they’re so close to understanding the ways in which the world is super fucked up, but they snatch defeat from the jaws of victory and hide in a fortress of ignorance instead.

That sounds like it must’ve been rough. I’m sorry for your loss.

Very cool.

Got any plans for this coming Halloween?

“Some people say 100% cotton thread breaks easier than blend or polyester. So far I haven’t had any bad experience with cotton threats though.”

Cotton thread is just objectively weaker than polyester thread, but I’ve never had that be an issue while sewing.

And in terms of the thread tearing when it’s sewn into a seam, sometimes that’s a feature, not a bug: sometimes it’s better to have the seam blow out and need to be resewn than for expensive or delicate fabric to tear. The right thread for the situation is always relative

Seconding someone’s advice that kits are a bit rubbish. The only things you need are needle and thread. Start with a multi pack of needles, and observe how they’re different. Different needles may differ by: the thickness of the needle; whether the tip is sharp or blunt; how large the eye of the needle is; how long the needle is. Different needles will have different roles, but it’s so easy to get bogged down in complexity, so just get an assortment and discover as you go. Part of learning is building tacit knowledge around what the right tool for the job is, so just give it a try and feel free to try other needles to see how they feel. Personal preference matters…

My main advice on hand sewing needles is to invest in high quality ones, because they’re much nicer to use and last longer. For perspective on what counts as “high quality”, my current ones that are my favourite cost me £4.20 for a pack of 6. That’s expensive compared to a supermarket multi pack, but not excessively so. These ones were particularly fancy, by my standards (Clover Black Gold), but they’re a useful benchmark as being about as fancy as you can really get. John James is another good brand. If these aren’t readily available where you are, don’t sweat it — just use this as a benchmark to see what the rough equivalent is where you are.

A pin cushion is useful for storing needles temporarily, but you don’t need to buy this. You can make one as an early project with some small swatches of fabric and some scrap paper stuffing.

I strongly recommend a thimble for anyone who is going to do significant amounts of hand sewing, because it makes it much easier to build a rhythm and sew neat and fast. It feels clunky at first, but once you practice, it makes things far quicker and easier. Unfortunately, most people’s experience of thimbles is of ill-fitting ones that probably came in some kit. You need one that fits comfortably on your middle finger without falling off or squeezing too right. A simple metal thimble will do, and they’re cheap, but it can be a faff to find the right size. The sizing is sort of standardized, and usually printed/engraved/debossed on the thimble, so you can use that to ballpark if you have some ill-fitting thimbles around. Otherwise, it’s best to go to a craft store and try poking your finger in some thimbles to find one that fits.

I don’t have good recommendations about thread. I got started using generic machine sewing thread, which you’re not meant to do, because it’s worse and harder to use. I find it hard to tell though, because by the time that I got specific hand sewing thread, I had enough skill that I had my own snobbish preferences and specific projects requirements. You don’t need a multipack of thread though, because that’ll be more likely to be crappy. Pick a colour that matches most of the stuff you wear/will be repairing (for me, it’s black). Also get some thread in a contrasting colour, because sometimes that’s useful (such as for temporary lines of stitching). You probably want some cotton thread, and also some polyester thread. In general, repair like with like: so polyester thread for synthetics, and cotton thread for cotton or other naturals. Beeswax can be nice for reducing the friction of the thread, but that’s not super necessary.

I worry that my advice may overcomplicate things, when that’s the opposite of what I want to convey. If there’s any recommendation I could give you, it’s to just get something and start. Hell, if you feel overwhelmed by how granular this is and are at risk of not diving in, then go for a kit if it helps — just don’t spend too much and know that the lesser quality will give you a worse experience. However, the most important thing is to just get started. You can upgrade your stuff or buy specifics as and when you need them, or you feel you’ve outgrown your existing tools.

You will botch repairs and need to redo them. Sometimes you will make it worse than what you started with, but that’s part of learning. However, the sooner that you start to tackle the simpler repairs, the sooner you’ll have the proficiency to be making all sorts of repairs and alterations. I give you this advice as someone who accidentally became proficient in sewing: I dove in and spent a long time being mediocre, and I still feel mediocre at it, but people regard me as being quite skilled. There’s no cheat code, but to take at crack at it.

Hedgehogs are far less common than they used to be, unfortunately. I haven’t seen one for years. A friend who lives in a more suburban area has one living under their shed, and she (the hedgehog) is such a creature of routine that my friend’s family will often gather near the window to watch her potter around on her nightly walk

Compost the rich

Seconding that massgrave is legit. I remember that I was nervous when I first installed Windows through this method, but I used it for years, across multiple different devices and never had any problems

Expressing admiration at other people’s achievements is good, but you don’t need to diminish your own through comparison. Writing is a bloody difficult endeavour, regardless of the specific context. OP has mentioned that in their view, it’s easier to write lots when you’re basing it off of an established work, but even beyond that, different styles of writing have different objectives.

Completing the draft of a book in a year is an impressive achievement that you should feel proud of, and I think we should use our shared understanding of how difficult it is to make something to build up ourselves and other creators.

I second the sentiment. You and other frequent posters of delightful posts help this place to feel more like a community. It’s also nice because you make me reflect on my own online presence in a manner that provides a positive pressure to be the kind of person I value in my community; I see usernames like yours crop up again and again, and when I find myself noticing that organically, it makes me wonder what kinds of patterns people notice across my own comments — it’s introspective, but in a good way

I might try that. I’ve not heard about sugar waxing before

It’s because C sounds like “sea”. It’s a joke that’s more about the sea-faring kind of pirate than the online kind

I have a bunch of disabilities that are nowhere near the scale that you describe, but often I feel so demoralised by how hard it is to exist as a disabled person that I want to die. But my resistance is galvanised by knowing that the people and the systems that would most benefit from my death are the ones who are making things harder for me, and people like me. Is it sustainable to continue living out of spite? Probably not, but it’s not just spite that keeps me going, but solidarity with other disabled people, and people who are marginalised by society in other ways too.

It sucks to be disabled. Even if society were radically different and far kinder than it currently is, it would still suck to be disabled. However, so much of my suffering is based in the world rather than my disability. Recently, for example, I had a meltdown because I was on holiday and the venue had described itself as being wheelchair accessible. It was not. When I complained that they shouldn’t list this as being the case if they’re not, this caused great offence. We found somewhere else to stay that night, and I later broke down at how fucked up it is that there’s more social stigma around being thought of as ableist than actually being ableist. Travelling with mobility problems is hard, but it would be way easier if there were less “compassion theatre”, where people want to appear accepting but are so deeply uncomfortable with thinking about disability and disabled people that they don’t meaningfully engage with accessibility issues.

My theory is that disability makes people feel uncomfortable because it reminds them of their own mortality. Being able-bodied is a temporary state, and that scares people. It means that a person like me merely existing at all is an act of rebellion and activism. I deeply wish that this weren’t so, because it’s so much work on top of the additional effort it takes to exist with a broken body, but besides dying, I can’t really opt out of that work — and if I did opt out in that manner, the work would still need to be done by the people who are just as tired and burnt out as I am. If being alive is an act of resistance, then I reckon that if I hold out as long as I can, I might be able to make the journey a little easier for those around me, or those who come after me. If I had to answer your question with respect to my current circumstances, I’d say that no, I don’t want to live. But I do anyway, out of defiance.

I reckon the same logic would resonate with me even if my needs were more significant. Hell, part of what led me to develop the views I currently hold is by being in community with disabled people whose lived experience is not far from what you describe. I have a lot more in common with them than it might seem at first glance, and that understanding gave me a lot of strength. It may well be a foolish hope, but if enough people push for change, then maybe we can build a world where fewer disabled people feel that death is preferable to life.

Here’s an image that captures my sentiment effectively, and has literally saved my life before: “I’m fucking fed up and tired and I want to die but living is the most punk shit I’ve ever fucking done”

The constant stream of piracy related utilities that end in “rr” never ceases to amuse me.

Bonus joke! “What’s a pirate’s favourite letter of the alphabet?”

(People often say Arrrrr! here, especially if you seed that context earlier in the conversation)

“You’d think so, but actually it’s C”

I appreciate the perspective in your second paragraph. I am aware of how tumultuous history makes me better at handling huge, high stakes crises (despite struggling to cope with minor issues), but I hadn’t considered how that dynamic could be affecting this quest.

When you are aiming to give everything a place, do you tend to do it from a bottom-up, item-by-item perspective, or a top-down, categories-then-items approach? For example, the top down mode is like if I defined a category like “nail-care”, and then listed/gathered the items that belonged to that category (nail clippers, cuticle oil, nail file, etc.) and designated a home for that category. The bottom up one might start with me actually using the nail clippers and then thinking “where should this one item go?” I find it especially hard to find homes for individual, loose items like this, but if I don’t put them somewhere, then when I stumble across other things in that category (cuticle oil etc.), I can’t find the nail clippers, which hinders the ability of categories to begin to form.

I find categories useful because my working memory is trash (likely ADHD related, which I should have mentioned in my post). Like, by encapsulating a list of 3 items (e.g. nail clippers, cuticle oil, nail file) with a category, it abstracts away a lot of unnecessary information and I’ve reduced the problem from “find homes for these three items” to “find a home for the nail stuff”. Currently, the default place for most of my stuff is for it to be spread across a couple of large boxes, and that makes it impossible for categories to form. I also often find myself paralysed with dread because I have historically found it useful to ensure I return items to their designated places, and my inability to find places for things causes me to just not use the things.

I do have a diagnosis of ADHD (I should have probably mentioned that in the post).

“Build systems that work for you today and get you closer to where you want to be.”

The problem is that I don’t think there are any systems that work for me today, in the sense that I am so deeply unfulfilled with my life at present that trying to build around me as I am now just leads to a sense of stagnation that really harms my morale. I think the key part of the above snippet is the “and get you closer to where you want to be”, and that’s the million dollar question.

I’ll check out the book you recommended, thanks.

Oooh, give me some of the words on your words list. I have one of my own, and accordingly, will share a random selection of recent entries: “that”; “nuisance”;“apotheosis”; “knobbly”; “vehement”; “perfidious”; “befitting”; “timid”; “verisimilitude”; “knack”.

I appreciate that your title makes it clear that this is an old article. Certainly it’s still relevant, but going into the article with knowledge of its age calibrates my mindset

It is not reliable at all, and yes, it is widely considered to be psuedoscience. Yes, this is a batshit insane scenario