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That won’t work for me since I have multiple people using this Nextcloud instance, and I also use it to publicly share files. I also have a big network share (currently 5 TB of data) that I would like to better integrate somehow (right now it’s available from Nextcloud read-only in essentially “anonymous mode” with no access to private user files).

Oh my god, this seems really good and closer to what I want than anything yet. Been looking for something to replace Nextcloud and found nothing good so I might take a look at this.

Since you’ve used both, how do ejabberd and prosody compare to another? I was going to go with the former.

I started learning Russian 2 and a half years ago now maybe, mostly in uni classes. Haven’t done anything in a while though. I generally think slavic languages are cool and would like to learn another actually.

Я начинала учить русский может быть 2 с половиной года назад, в основном в универе, но ничего не делала за учение в последнее время. В общем я думаю, что славянские языки круто и действительно хочу бы учить другую.

The database store is in /var/lib/postgres. You can just connect that disk somewhere else and start the database using the same (important!) major release of Postgres. I think the major version number is in the folder name. Then do whatever from there.

Okay, to avoid confusion maybe I should use the same term you used, which is sexual preference, and not sexual orientation. This is what I’m talking about (from your OP):

The second part is sexual prefernces. I do not know much about sex or sexual preferences. I am a young adult, and have not had to know about this for any person that I have met yet. I have never had the interest to know about this for someone, neither have I retained this information. I understand that if you are looking out for partner/s, then you would have to share this, so we would have to use some words for it. But why do we have to keep this as a part of gender. As in, why would I want to share this information with my governments (who do census), or for my visa applications. Should this not just be something personal?

The only one who talks about this in the linked comment chain is the other person, and only tangentially.

So, again I suppose, in which way do you think this is part of gender?

Hm, where? I only saw you talk about gender vs sex, for which there is no difference in my native language either. And they certainly are closely related to the point where the majority of people identify as the gender corresponding to their sex.

However sexual orientation (such as “straight” or “gay” or “aroace” for example) is an entirely different thing as it describes your attraction to other people.

Sexual orientation is not part of gender! In which way do you think it is?

Hm, okay, that does sound like the real client IP will get lost and every connection will appear to come from the proxy then. It would be good if that were passed somehow. My current setup adds the X-Forwarded-For header for example.

Oh interesting, I’ll have to look into that. Is this with that “proxy protocol” I’ve seen mentioned? If not, does this preserve it pass through the client socket address?

Tbf, technically data is still decrypted at the reverse proxy and then re-encrypted. So if someone manages to reconfigure the proxy or read its memory somehow they could read traffic in plain text.

However then since they have to control the VPS, they could also get a new cert for that domain (at least the way I’ve configured it) even if it was passed as is to the real host via a tunnel and read the plaintext data that way, so I don’t think a tunnel protects against anything.

If someone manages to get root (!) access on this VPS it’s over either way.

Yes, you can just use a reverse proxy for IPv4 only and point it to the IPv6 upstream. That is what I do, with a separate DNS record which then combines the two. See the DNS records for id.knifepoint.net (CNAME), http.vineta.knifepoint.net (AAAA, A) and vineta.knifepoint.net (AAAA).

The reverse proxy config and certificate management is set up with NixOS, if it helps: https://git.dblsaiko.net/systems/tree/nixos/defaults/v4proxy.nix https://git.dblsaiko.net/systems/tree/nixos/modules/sys2x/v4proxy.nix

It worked well in my experience, no problems at all. I used it for a while a couple months ago until I set the web interface back up on my server.

From its web page it sounds like it is both a MTA and MDA, has a built-in spam filter, plus has calendar, contacts and file storage. Do you know how it compares to my current setup of Postfix, Dovecot, and rspamd (and Nextcloud for the others)?

Apple is incompetent at writing software for anything but their own devices. iCloud Web is also a disaster for example, and the old iTunes for Windows is infamous for being a buggy mess. Though I have to say they did a good job with the new web Apple Maps.

I love watching Vargskelethor’s Temu Trash streams where he browses the site looking at funny awful products. (clip from one of them that I cut together) That’s the closest I’ve gone near it.

(art by unworn)

No. I don’t use it myself but this fucking sucks.

Ah okay, so you know some behind the scenes info or at least more than just this. My bad, but tbh you should have lead with that because initially I thought you completely misread what the text was saying because I pretty clearly read the queer mentions as “this is not just transphobic attacks by bigots” (see my other comment). Sorry!