Nobody likes people not accepting responsibility for their own actions. Duh.

At the same time, who am I to say that something isn’t or wasn’t as hard on someone as they say? Shouldn’t we believe people when they say a thing is a burden for them? Doubly so if we ourselves don’t have first-hand knowledge of it, such as poverty, or race, or gender?

Yes, I have a close friend who sometimes irritates me by how she keeps saying she can’t do X because Y, or failed at Z due to Q, but in the end her feelings are true and valid even if they seem irrational to me. And she’s so much more than that.

I, like most of us on Lemmy, live a better life than almost the entirety of the rest of human history.

I’m sorry, I’m sorry, the world and by extension you have been so kind to me and I turned out to be just this worthless waste of oxygen, my existence a net negative of epic proportions and yet I’m too cowardly to at least end this miserable experiment.

Life is full of wonders and joy and there’s so much more to enjoy!

Life is full of putting on a face and smiling and playing a well-adjusted individual and I’m so tired.

Welcome to depression-ville, population way too fucking many.

Ditto. Effing survival instinct.

European here, if my parents needed assistance I’d do my best to help them 100%. But that’s because they’re my parents, they can be thrifty, I know they’re not gambling addicts or spending it all on booze etc. Having to ask (not outright, but no longer strongly refusing my help or no longer dumping money on us at every opportunity to avoid inheritance taxes) would be an indicator that they’re already pretty desperate.

Lots of people aren’t as lucky regarding their parents.

Oh hell no. A fumbled 1, shambling back into sweet death-death within moments, possibly dragging him with me.

Agreed and agreed. But an addendum regarding mattresses: No matter what the salespeople tell you, most mattresses with pocketed coil springs are pretty much the same apart from hardness, especially with a compensating mattress topper. Just get one that feels right to you, definitely don’t think that more expensive=better, mattress-wise.

More money advice: Most things come in two tiers worth purchasing: “nice” and “wow”.

“Nice” are the things experts deem good enough, or clothes-wise ones that you can see yourself actually wearing across multiple years, both durability- and appearance-wise. Affordable, and you like them. A useable placeholder, if you will.

“Wow” are the things that you’ve been steadily dreaming of for years, or ones that catch your eye even if you weren’t looking. “Buy it for life” stuff. Solid whole wood furniture, that teapot or coffee maker you’ve been dreaming of. A designer winter coat that only costs 20 times your old one. 🫣 On these you look at the price tag after; you want it, you get it, and if it breaks, you repair it. If it’s affordable, or if you find more than one of these every 1-3 years, consider yourself very lucky.

Nothing below “nice” is worth getting, and very few things between “nice” and “wow” are worth getting.

IMHO that’s a surefire way to burnout and self-doubts later on. My advice would almost be the opposite.

Never too late to change if what you’re doing isn’t working for you. Recognize when you’re about to kill your passion with expectations, and don’t do it. There is little to no cross-disciplinary knowledge that doesn’t come in useful, so don’t force yourself to be single-minded in your pursuits. What you’re learning matters surprisingly little, that you’re learning matters so much more.

But yea, don’t change major pursuits, like, every year. Probably depends on the person which advice they need. I definitely would have needed the latter.

Love you.

I’m sorry.

There’s also “The Walk” from the same makers, for us non-joggers. I tried it long ago and I think it was mostly an audio story that triggered a new chapter at some step counts.

https://thewalkgame.com/

My cat. Everyone would be played by cats. Untrained cats, just put them together in relevant places and roll camera. It’s art now.

I think that for most, this was a shift from “mildly opposed” to “mildly supportive, and if you’re going to do it, do it now”.

At least my pro/con list hasn’t changed, just the odds. I still think we’re more likely to be dragged into war somewhere far away than being attacked ourselves, and that the US is an unreliable ally. But those are acceptable risks compared to the chance of having the whole NATO having our back if there were to be war on our ground.

Arvo Pärt - Spiegel im Spiegel (full album) 47 min https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U4RmJaP683A

My “fall asleep” list also includes

Arvo Pärt - Cantus in memoriam Benjamin Britten (8 min).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sp2oxWdRMuk

Philippe Gaubert - Madrigal (4 min).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xv-bcyezUpE
which would bring it to almost an hour.

Edit: Maybe Fauré - Pavane arranged for flute and piano (6 min) to tide it over.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kht_mssWxAc

Instead of being guilt-ridden and terrified of making mistakes, especially if they might cause harm to others, I get… antisocial personality disorder? Fuck.

In my language “thanks” and “please” can use the same word, sometimes it spills over into my use of English. Hopefully the tone of voice carries the sincerity of the hopeful-but-not-demanding request anyway, but that’s not available in online communication. Then again, online I usually have time to get my "thank you"s and " please"s in order.

Also mostly using AliExpress, sometimes Ebay. AliExpress has good shops; check the other stuff they sell and the reviews to get an idea. Official company stores are great, but there are also fake company stores. And customer service on those rare occasions when it’s just that bad, sucks.

I got a decent CPAP machine for cheap on Wish, but otherwise the stuff just seems flimsier and more expensive.

All the chocolate is already down the toilet, or on my waistline.

(Western concert) flute. Playing, maintenance/repair, collecting, different mechanics and other deviations from the norm, history.

Tea. All teas camellia sinensis/taliensis, and different cultural habits around it. Teapot collecting addiction.

3D modeling and printing.

Roboslave

Ayreon - Two Gates About 2:00-2:20 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EWm0lmmLjNs&t=2m

Because we’ve decided it’s nonethical for healthcare professionals. Any doctor knowingly prescribing placebo and lying about it could get in some major trouble. Like a couple decades ago I heard a psychiatrist mourn the loss of disulfiram (antabuse) implants from their treatment arsenal; it worked very well as a placebo but research didn’t show a clear improvement over placebo, so they could no longer use it.

I am kind of glad that non-license-needing wellness consultants can still use the placebo effect for good, even if it is sometimes predatory and sometimes outright dangerous.